3 Essential Secrets to a Great Self Image From A Melbourne Hypnotist

Posted by on Oct 23, 2013 in Self-Esteem

What You REALLY Need To Know About Confidence

 
My primary role as a Melbourne Hypnotherapist is to teach my clients is to pay attention to the messages they are sending themselves.
When you talk about yourself what do you say?

Maybe you say: ‘I am a punctual person’, or: ‘I always sabotage job interviews!’ What you say to yourself and about yourself creates(and reinforces) the subconscious beliefs that make up who you ‘think’ you are. And one thing’s for sure: you can’t get what you want by hating where you are now.

If you don’t like who you are, then you can change that. Here’s how:

ONE: Stop putting yourself down

It’s really difficult not to get caught up in the habit of putting yourself down in a deeply conditioned society that tells us that in order to do better we must first make ourselves feel worse.

The problem with this tactic, though, is that your subconscious mind is like a sponge. Whatever you say to yourself or about yourself becomes a belief, and you act upon your beliefs in your day to day life.

Therefore, even though you don’t consciously want to be ‘hopeless’ or ‘useless’, your subconscious ends up proving this to be true for you.

We’re also taught from a very young age that our self-image is (and should be) based on external factors. Below are the benchmarks by which many people assess their self-worth;

  • Job title;
  • Bank balance;
  • Friends and ‘important’ acquaintances;
  • Place of residence;
  • Brand of Car;
  • Physical appearance

Are you defined by what you do for a living, or would your self-esteem remain intact whether you were a rock star or a janitor? Would you still be okay with yourself even if you were flat broke?

By nature, you are conditioned to strive for all these superficial achievements, but the truth is they have nothing to do with who you are.

TWO: Find your negative beliefs

Your subconscious mind is the humble servant of your conscious mind. Whatever you tell it, it will say ‘Yes. Okay’. So start to  develop some beliefs that get you more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.

Sit down in a quiet place. Take a piece of paper and do the following:

  1. Write down the top five negative things you say to yourself.
  2. Next to each negative thing, write something positive.

THREE: Lose the self-hatred

When you have the culprits down on paper, they serve as a constant reminder of what you need to fix in order to improve your self-image. From now on, whenever you catch yourself in a negative thought, touch yourself on the wrist and say to yourself: ‘next’

Then, immediately follow this by stating out loud the corresponding positive thought that you have written down. This takes a bit of practice but I promise you, it’s well worth the effort.
You have the power to choose what you believe about yourself.

Once you have found your negative beliefs you can get help to change them by contacting a Melbourne hypnotherapist, who will help you change your beliefs and improve your confidence.

Think of these exercises as watering the seeds of self-confidence. You can choose either to cultivate positive growth or negative growth. It starts with self-awareness.