Stop Getting Lost in Anxiety

Posted by on Oct 23, 2013 in Anxiety And Depression

Wake Up From The Trance Of Fear

 
Are you worried about becoming more strung out and jittery? Anxiety hypnotherapy is by far the best treatment to help you stop identifying with your negative thoughts. Many people come to me feeling bewildered by their feelings; they pass judgment on themselves, saying they ‘have no right’ to feel this way, or that they ‘should’ just snap out of it’.But it’s not quite that simple.

If you’re the kind of person who just gets on with things no matter what is happening around you, you might be baffled as to who ‘all of a sudden’ you can’t cope. I you think you should have it all together, think again. The truth is life is unpredictable, and can knock us around in many ways. The first step is to cut yourself some slack.

You don’t have as much control over your environment as you might think. So when things don’t go your way you might find yourself saying ‘why me?’. But it’s not personal. Life is a series of causes, conditions and changing phenomena that we have to learn to ‘surf’ like the unpredictable waves of the ocean.

That’s right; sometimes bad things happen to good people.

Maybe you’re thinking: ‘EEK!’ She’s a hypnotherapist! Shouldn’t she be banging on about the power of the mind and the ‘Secret’ and all that? Well…just between you and me, I think ‘The Secret’ is just a bunch of old hype.  It simply isn’t true that you just have to want something (and think about it) in order to have it. It’s far more complex than that.

We spend our whole lives trying to control our outer environment, with varying degrees of success. But I don’t care what all those ‘you can have anything you want’ self-help books say. Whether you’re a rock star or a janitor, sooner or later you’re going to experience hurt, disappointment, shame and despondency. Sooner or later you’re just not going to get it together in the way that you thought you would. This is the nature of human existence. We can’t always get what we want.

Still, during those times when you have seemingly no control over your outer circumstances, it can be helpful to know that you can still be happy. Inner peace and wellbeing have very little to do with outer circumstances. These positive mind states are cultivated by training your mind.

I’m a big fan of the Buddha. He really nailed when he said (and this isn’t  a direct quote, just a summary): “whatever a person frequently thinks and ponders upon, that will become the inclination of his mind.”

What he’s saying is that the kinds of thoughts and beliefs you focus your attention on have a great deal of influence in the way you think, feel and act from day to day. Here are some examples of negative beliefs and thought forms that are unhelpful:

  • Better to be safe than sorry;
  • I am hopeless;
  • Life is hard;
  • Life is a struggle;
  • I am Useless;
  • Whatever can go wrong will go wrong;
  • People are basically out for themselves;
  • You can’t trust anybody;
  • Bad things happen in threes;
  • I’m highly strung;
  • I take after my mother/father,
  • (Someone who is anxious)

Here’s the thing; you’re always going to have thoughts; this is normal. And yes, sometimes you will be bombarded with negative thoughts. This is also normal, although our society would have you believe otherwise. The key, then, is to become mindful of when the negative thoughts are arising so that you don’t get lost in the storyline.

So am I going to ask you to ‘get rid’ of these thoughts? No. Am I going to ask you to replace these thoughts with positive affirmations? No.

What I will suggest instead, is that you become aware when these kinds of thoughts are arising so that you can stop yourself from getting on the ‘not good enough train’. This is called mindfulness meditation and it’s the single best way to train the mind. Don’t get me wrong – this isn’t an easy process – but it can be done and it’s worth the effort to practise. So for now, just pay attention. Sometimes you’ll catch yourself and say ‘oh, there’s worrying’ or ‘there’s the inner critic’. Other times you’ll get lost.

But if you’re already seeing a therapist for anxiety hypnotherapy, you may as well do some homework in between sessions. And the effects are cumulative – each time you catch yourself you’ll strengthen the habit of mindfulness.