Hypnotherapy Helps You Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Posted by on Oct 23, 2013 in Self-Esteem

Do Other People’s Opinions Really Matter?

 
Having practised as a Melbourne hypnotherapist for over 11 years I’ve seen a lot of clients who worry about what others think of them; so much so that they compromise their own core values and needs. It seems everybody is so afraid of not measuring up that they’re afraid to just be themselves.

It’s a shame, really. In my experience it’s almost impossible NOT to like a person if they are being true to themselves. Also, it’s pretty futile trying to mould yourself into another person’s idea of what is ‘acceptable’, because that person’s opinion is likely to change from moment to moment anyway.

A lot of the work I do with my clients is teaching them to be comfortable with who they are; but some people are so used to moulding themselves into different personalities based on the company they keep that they don’t actually have any idea who they are.

I saw a client who suffers from anxiety the other day. She told me that a friend of hers said she should come and have therapy with me so that she could become ‘normal’. What exactly IS normal, and why should you believe that you are not normal because you have anxiety? From where I’m sitting anxiety and low self esteem are becoming alarmingly normal, and that’s because most people spend their lives trying to achieve a concept of ‘normality’ that simply doesn’t exist.

Have you forgotten who you really are? If you really took a leap of faith and decided to be 100% true to yourself rather than trying to live up to the mirage of what others perceive to be ‘normal’ , what do you think might happen?  If you really want to do something good for yourself, let go of you attachment to other peoples opinions, because they have nothing to do with you.

No matter what you do, where you go or how many good deeds you do, you will never EVER escape the judgment of other people. Why? Because many people in the world are unhappy. Unhappy people need to judge other people in order to feel better about themselves.

People who need to judge other people are living in a reality based on self-hatred, fear and projection. Their need to judge has nothing to do with who you are. Even if you did everything right all of the time there would be somebody somewhere who would have something bad to say about you – even if it is only that you are ‘too nice’.

The only opinion that really matters is your opinion of yourself.  If you don’t have a good opinion of yourself, a Melbourne hypnotherapist can help you. As you learn to accept yourself exactly as you are, others will accept you too. Let go of other people’s stuff and focus on you.