Stop Saying Yes To Everybody With Hypnosis

Posted by on Oct 23, 2013 in Self-Esteem

It’s Time To Push Back.

Many of my female Melbourne hypnotherapy clients find it really hard to say no. This is because they’re used to multi-tasking. By nature women are caregivers who have an automatic tendency to put other people’s needs before their own.

An admirable quality – if somewhat misguided.

It’s great to care for others – compassion and generosity are skilfull qualities to cultivate. Problem is, sometimes you’re doing such a good job of caring for other people that you forget all about looking after yourself. And that’s not good.

Forgetting about your own needs entirely equates to stress, tension and ultimately losing your grip on life. Women who come to see me are often trying to find their way back to a place of self-nurturing.

Their subconscious programming has fortified their core belief systems based on self-sacrifice, martyrdom and obligation to the needs of others. Here are some common self-destructive beliefs that come up:

  • I don’t have time to take care of my health;
  • I don’t have time to take care of my body;
  • I don’t have time to listen to your CD;

Oh dear. Why is it that we don’t have time, you ask??? Because every ounce of energy goes into looking after other people; saying ‘yes’ when we really need to say ‘no’; taking responsibility for other people’s wellbeing, behaviour and everything else in between.

When I challenge my Melbourne hypnosis clients to re-assess these core beliefs, they say ‘But I don’t deserve to take time for myself; other people will call me selfish’. Is this ringing a little bell with you? If so, I’d like to ask you one simple question:

If YOU don’t deserve to be healthy and happy, then who does?

Seriously. Do you believe that by looking after yourself you are somehow robbing another person of their happiness? Who on Earth made the rule that your happiness and health should come last? I want to let you in on a little secret: In order to take care of others, you must first take care of yourself.

Who do you think is going to benefit when you become calmer, fitter, healthier and happier? Only you? Oh no. Everyone around you will benefit from your renewed energy, confidence and zest for life.

So if you don’t have time to take care of yourself and experience the happiness that I know you deserve, then here is my advice to you: Get help from a hypnotherapist. It’s not time that’s the problem – it’s your beliefs. Make time for you, and the rest will follow easily and naturally.